GS YOUNGBLOOD | The Crucial Difference Between Men and Women in Relationships
May 21, 2024
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GS YOUNGBLOOD, Author and men's coach, discusses the importance of masculine leadership in relationships, evoking women to relax into femininity, handling emotions, and addressing feelings before facts. He emphasizes the gift of masculine structure in partnerships and navigating selfishness and assertiveness, embodying presence, and providing a blueprint for relationship success.
Masculine leadership is a valuable gift in relationships, offering structure and emotional stability.
Balancing attunement and assertiveness is crucial to maintain healthy relationships and individual needs.
Men are advised to challenge 'nice guy' behaviors, prioritize self-care, and communicate authentically in relationships.
Deep dives
Masculinity in Relationships
In relationships, embracing masculinity leads to fulfilling partnerships. Masculine leadership is seen as a valuable gift that men can offer. Providing structure in relationships and handling emotions effectively are key aspects discussed. Addressing feelings before facts and creating a unique skill set for men in relationships with strong women are highlighted.
Occupying the Masculine Pole
Occupying the masculine pole involves responding versus reacting, providing structure, and creating safety in relationships. Men are encouraged to be grounded, offer direction, and establish emotional connection to build trust and foster intimacy. The importance of containing and sharing emotions judiciously is emphasized.
Balancing Attunement and Boundaries
Finding a balance between attunement and assertiveness is crucial in relationships. Men are advised to be unafraid of losing their partner and not pedestalize them. Understanding personal needs and attuning to their partner while maintaining boundaries is key. Striking a balance between meeting both personal and relational needs is emphasized.
Recognizing the Need for Internal Validation
Men often seek external validation to feel okay, focusing on how others view them rather than genuine care for others. This behavior stems from a fear of addressing their own needs, leading to suppressed anger and resentment in relationships. By acknowledging and communicating personal needs authentically, men can navigate beyond the trap of seeking constant external validation.
Embracing Selfishness to Break Habits
Men who identify as 'nice guys' or struggle to assert their needs are encouraged to challenge themselves through a 'selfish' behavior shift. A seven-day challenge prompts men to prioritize their desires and break free from habitual selflessness. Additionally, embracing embodiment practices helps ground men and reduce fear responses, allowing for clearer communication of needs and desires in relationships.
We know we’d like to step more fully into our masculinity in relationships. We, as men, inherently know that it makes for a much more rewarding and fulfilling partnership with the fairer sex. But what does it look like in practicality and application?
My guest today is author and men’s coach, GS Youngblood. Today, we talk about why masculine leadership is a gift, how to evoke women to relax into their femininity, why a man’s job is to provide structure to a relationship and how to do it, how men should handle their emotions, and why, in relationships, it can be a good idea to address feelings first and facts later.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
(00:00) Episode Intro
(00:52) Masculine Leadership in Relationships
(10:59) Masculine Blueprint for Relationship Success
(24:16) Navigating Masculine Leadership in Relationships
(33:52) Navigating Selfishness and Assertiveness in Relationships