How To! How To Confront a Vindictive Neighbor with Tig Notaro (Encore)
Jan 6, 2026
In this insightful conversation, Tig Notaro, a stand-up comedian and host of Don't Ask Tig, helps a listener named Sarah tackle her passive-aggressive neighbor. They explore effective communication strategies, encouraging Sarah to express how the notes affected her feelings. Tig suggests envisioning herself as the hero of a movie to reclaim her confidence. With humor as a tool, they discuss ignoring negativity and transforming the situation into comedy. By taking bold steps and focusing on joy, Sarah learns to regain control over her own narrative.
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Fern Sparks Neighborhood Feud
- Sarah bought a hanging fern for her new condo and planted it on her front porch.
- Her upstairs neighbor responded with passive-aggressive notes that kicked off a prolonged conflict.
Say How It Made You Feel
- Tell the person how their behavior made you feel instead of only apologizing reflexively.
- Naming your emotions forces the other side to see you as a human, not just a problem to dismiss.
Play Yourself As The Hero
- Picture your life as a movie and ask what the main character would do to regain power.
- Use that movie version to act boldly and reclaim control over your reactions and space.
