How to Stop Comparing Yourself with Elyse Fox of Sad Girls Club

Jul 1, 2025

Join Elyse Fox, Brooklyn-based filmmaker and founder of the Sad Girls Club, as she discusses breaking free from comparison. She shares her transformative journey from sadness to self-discovery and the creation of her global community. Elyse touches on redefining success, the importance of vulnerability, and how asking for help fosters growth. Tune in for practical tips on reducing comparison through social media boundaries and embracing joy, all while navigating the challenges of leading a nonprofit focused on mental health.

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ANECDOTE

Film Sparked A Global Community

Elyse made a seven-minute film about her depression to tell friends she needed support.
The film sparked global responses and directly led her to start Sad Girls Club.

ADVICE

Ask Specifically When You Need Help

Ask for help with specific calls to action so people know how to support you.
Elyse called in favors, asked for mentorship, and accepted offered help to grow Sad Girls Club.

INSIGHT

Independence Can Hide Future Need

Hyper-independence in childhood can map to emotional isolation as adults.
Elyse connects 'the kid they didn't worry about' to being a 'sad girl' later in life.

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#298: We all know comparison is the thief of joy, but what does it mean to truly embody a comparison-free life?

In this episode, I’m sitting down with Elyse Fox, filmmaker, writer, and founder of Sad Girls Club to unpack and dismantle comparison.

Along the way, we also discuss Elyse’s journey of self-discovery, what it means to build community, how she’s redefining success on her own terms, and how you can too. Tap in for candid insights on mental health, entrepreneurship, and making space for joy.

We Also Talk About…

Elyse’s mental health journey and how it led to the creation of Sad Girls Club
Why it’s okay to not have all the answers
How vulnerability led to building a global community
The power of asking for help, creating boundaries, and the importance of accepting support
What it’s like running a nonprofit and leading a dynamic team

Resources:

Follow Elyse on Instagram @elyse.fox
Follow Sad Girls Club on Instagram @sadgirlsclub
Check out Elyse’s podcast, The End of an Era
Connect with Les and Elyse’s Executive Coach Tori Lazar on Instagram @torilazar

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