The Dildorks Access Denied
Dec 3, 2024
This week's discussion dives into the tantalizing world of denial kink, exploring its allure and complex dynamics. The hosts share personal stories about family influences on self-worth and the quest for validation through kink. They dissect societal narratives around desire, particularly the myths surrounding men, while also examining how denial plays a role in emotional intimacy. With a mix of humor and insight, they reflect on the psychological impacts of people-pleasing within relationships and the anticipatory thrill of delayed gratification.
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Denial Extends Beyond Orgasm
- Denial can target many things beyond orgasms, like attention, praise, items, or agency.
- Those varied denials change meaning by removing acknowledgment, tools, or autonomy rather than just orgasmic release.
Denial Reins In Agency
- Denial often functions as a power tool reminding someone their agency is temporarily removed.
- That dynamic can echo cult-like structures and escalate control if mishandled.
Earning Small Rewards Feels Erotic
- Billy describes deriving pleasure from earning rewards via denial and from having a partner control access to things he values.
- He lists examples like restricted media, selfies, or permission to read special books as motivating rewards.
