Pooja Lakshmin MD, a board-certified psychiatrist and author of "Real Self-Care," dives deep into the pitfalls of commodified self-care. She critiques superficial solutions peddled to mothers and professionals alike while emphasizing personal agency amidst systemic pressures. Pooja highlights the evolving nature of self-care, especially for Gen Z, and addresses the struggle against perfectionism in personal and professional life. Tune in for insights on celebrating achievements authentically and navigating wellness in a corporate landscape.
The podcast critiques the commodification of self-care, emphasizing the need for deeper systemic change rather than superficial solutions.
It highlights how access to self-care is a privilege, significantly influenced by socioeconomic factors and personal backgrounds.
Deep dives
The Overload of Self-Care Messaging
The surge of self-care content, particularly in relation to perimenopause and menopause, creates overwhelming noise for individuals seeking genuine support. Many are inundated with advice on protein intake or hormonal treatments, which can add to feelings of confusion and inadequacy. The podcast highlights the cultural tendency to make each generational struggle a focal point, similar to how motherhood became a trending topic years ago. This societal phenomenon often leads to constant messaging that may not address the deeper, systemic issues contributing to these challenges.
The Complexity of Real Self-Care
The concept of self-care is deeply discussed, focusing on the multifaceted aspects of personal well-being beyond simple solutions. Real self-care requires recognizing the balance between tangible changes like diet and exercise and more profound emotional and systemic issues, such as lack of support and structural inequities. The conversation critiques the notion that straightforward diet changes or workout hacks can resolve deeper problems, advocating instead for a more nuanced understanding of wellness. By emphasizing that wellness cannot be achieved through medication or diet alone, the discussion encourages listeners to embrace the complexity of their health journeys.
The Privilege of Self-Care
Self-care is recognized not only as a personal endeavor but also as a privilege that is often inaccessible to many individuals. Factors such as time, financial resources, and the ability to learn self-care practices play crucial roles in who can adequately engage in self-care. For those who have had healthier life experiences, practicing self-care comes more naturally and is easier to access. Conversely, individuals without such backgrounds may struggle, highlighting that society needs to address these inequalities to foster true wellness for all.
Hobbies and Their Role in Identity
The significance of hobbies is examined, revealing their potential to enhance well-being while also exploring their commodified perception in today’s society. Many individuals find themselves pressured to turn hobbies into achievements or measurable successes, which can diminish the joy that these activities bring. Healthy engagement with hobbies should promote relaxation and self-discovery without the need for external validation. Emphasizing that hobbies should simply be for enjoyment, the discussion advocates for a shift away from performance and back to the intrinsic joy of doing things for oneself.
We’re at the point where we know a b******t attempt to commodify our burnout when we see it. No one’s buying the self-care spiel the bath bomb companies are selling us. But the rhetoric of self-care has crept into the workplace, family dynamics, and TikTok therapy speak, usually divorced from any critique of the systems that make self-care feel necessary in the first place. Pooja Lakshmin MD, author of Real Self-Care, joins the pod to answer your very smart questions about contemporary self-care in workplace trainings, in conversations encouraging everyone to GET A HOBBY!, and in advice to perfectionist women to “lower the bar.” Pooja is so clear-eyed and compassionate — and I think this episode will make you feel seen and challenged.
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