AuDHD Flourishing 117 PDA + AuDHD
Oct 25, 2025
Explore the complex interplay of PDA, ADHD, and autism, and how they affect relationships and stress levels. Learn about the triggers of PDA as fight-or-flight responses and the importance of autonomy in daily tasks. Mattia delves into childhood experiences of shame and masking, offering insights into comforting the inner child. Discover practical strategies for co-regulation and energy conservation, while uncovering the strengths within PDA behaviors. The discussion emphasizes personal stories and resilience, weaving hope and encouragement throughout.
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PDA As Insistence On Autonomy
- PDA feels like an extreme insistence on bodily and temporal autonomy rather than simple avoidance of tasks.
- Mattia Maurée links PDA to childhood lack of allowed autonomy and ongoing triggers around control.
Grieve The Child And Create Your Reasons
- Do grieve and comfort the child part of you when childhood-related PDA triggers appear.
- Do create your own real, present-tense reasons for doing tasks so they feel autonomous and meaningful.
Cleaning Triggered Childhood Trauma
- Mattia recounts never learning cleaning skills due to abuse and neglect, causing shame and task-triggered trauma.
- They used Internal Family Systems-style comforting to invite the stuck child part to live with them now.