2. The Price We Need to Pay to Be in a Relationship Devoted to Sacred Intimacy
May 1, 2024
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Relationship expert John emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and honesty in fostering sacred intimacy. Topics include distinguishing fleeting vs. enduring intimacy, addressing past traumas, self-awareness of triggers, and creating a culture for sustaining sacred intimacy.
Owning and communicating reactivity and triggers fosters deeper sacred intimacy.
Transitioning from individual needs to partnership dynamics is crucial for sustained intimacy.
Deep dives
Owning Our Own Shit as an Act of Devotion
Taking ownership of our reactions and triggers is crucial in nurturing sacred intimacy. By understanding and communicating our reactivity and patterns to our partners, we pave the way for deeper connection and trust. This self-awareness and honesty form the foundation for sustained sacred intimacy, requiring us to address our pathologies and childhood wounds.
Second Stage Work: Nurturing the 'Us' in Relationship
Transitioning from 'me' to 'us' in relationships involves healing and relational growth. Terry Reel's model highlights the importance of moving beyond individual needs to focus on partnership dynamics. By mastering the 'us' part, we establish a solid relational ground for sacred union and sustainable intimacy.
The Link Between Emotional and Sexual Intimacy
Deep emotional intimacy directly impacts the depth of sexual connection. Nourishing the emotional aspect of a relationship enriches the sexual experience, creating a soulful connection. Addressing shadows and fears that arise in intimate moments allows for personal and relational growth, enhancing the depth of intimacy.
Deepening Intimacy through Self-Exploration
Exploring triggers, reactions, and patterns uncovers deep-rooted wounds and trauma that affect intimate relationships. By recognizing and addressing our reactive behaviors, we create a culture of self-honesty and responsibility. Engaging in personal healing work enriches relational dynamics, leading to sustained and profound sacred intimacy.
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Exploring the Depths of Personal Work for Sustainable Sacred Intimacy
“Devotion to the relationship, devotion to our partner's nervous system also requires that we let them know how we tick, that we let them know where our reactivity is coming from. We let them know exactly how our nervous system is going to respond to certain stimuli, certain triggers. So just being able to identify and bring our own awareness and our own sort of ruthless honesty to the things that are going on in us is an incredibly helpful way to lay the groundwork for sacred intimacy.” — John Wineland
Today on The Embodied Relationship Experience:
Exploring the distinction between fleeting and enduring intimate experiences
How inner work and addressing past traumas foster deep sacred intimacy
Learning intimacy skills vs. undergoing deep relational work
The importance of self-awareness and communication of personal triggers
Creating a culture that sustains a relationship devoted to sacred intimacy