The Art of Accomplishment Why You Feel Guilty For Wanting Things
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Jan 16, 2026 
Join Joe and Alexa Kistler, an AOA facilitator and expert on self-exploration, as they delve into the complexities of wanting. They explore how our childhood patterns can create a war with our desires and how this leads to suffering. The discussion highlights the nuances of gender socialization in expressing wants and the disempowering effects of unacknowledged desires. They emphasize that embracing our wants can enhance relationships, reduce manipulability, and ultimately lead to a more fulfilling life.
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Wanting Is An Emotion, Not An Object
- Wanting is an emotion and accessing the feeling of wanting is fundamental to aliveness.
- Childhood dynamics often teach children to satisfy caregivers' wants, blocking access to their own wanting.
Unclaimed Wants Breed Codependence
- Not owning your wants creates codependence and resentment in relationships and organizations.
- Leaders who caretake everything disempower the system and cause breakdowns.
Acknowledge Wants To Improve Communication
- When someone shares a want, respond with acceptance and clarity rather than obligation or guilt.
- Saying 'I love that you want that' improves communication even if you can't meet the want now.