In this episode, the podcast explores various sexual fantasies, including threesomes and consensual non-consent. They discuss the psychology behind these fantasies and offer advice on embracing and exploring them. The hosts also emphasize the importance of open communication and address issues in a sexual relationship. They share success stories from listeners who turned their fantasies into realities.
Threesomes are a popular and exciting sexual fantasy due to their novelty and taboo nature.
Consensual non-consent (CNC) is a type of BDSM play centered around the fantasy of being forced to have sex.
Deep dives
Exploring Sexual Fantasies
In this podcast episode, Dr. Emily discusses the topic of sexual fantasies. She emphasizes that almost everyone has fantasies and that exploring them can provide valuable insights into our own desires and turn-ons. The top fantasy mentioned by the Sex with Emily community is threesomes, which Dr. Emily explains is a common and exciting fantasy due to the novelty and taboo nature. She also discusses consensual non-consent (CNC), explaining that it is a type of BDSM play centered around the fantasy of being forced to have sex. The podcast also touches on the fantasies of cuckolding and hot-wifing, where individuals derive pleasure from their partner being with someone else. Finally, Dr. Emily addresses the fantasy of power dynamics and dominance, including the rising popularity of pegging. Overall, the episode emphasizes the importance of open communication, consent, and setting boundaries when exploring fantasies with partners.
Helping Your Partner Develop Sexual Fantasies
Tim asks for advice on how to help his partner develop sexual fantasies. Dr. Emily suggests starting with recalling past sexual encounters that have been arousing or exciting and using those as a starting point for exploration. She encourages engaging in open conversations with your partner about desires and preferences. Dr. Emily also suggests exploring sexual content such as audio porn or erotic stories as a way to inspire and encourage the development of new fantasies. She advises Tim to take a patient and understanding approach, giving his partner space to explore her desires at her own pace.
Overcoming Insecurities and Comparisons in a Relationship
Shannon shares that she feels intimidated by her partner's previous sexual experiences and struggles to talk to him about her own desires and fantasies. Dr. Emily advises her to communicate honestly with her partner about her insecurities and fears, emphasizing that comparisons can be detrimental to the relationship. Dr. Emily suggests reframing the conversation to focus on enhancing intimacy and exploring new experiences together. She recommends starting with small acts of dominance or submission to test the waters and create a safe space for vulnerability and growth.
Navigating Sexual Desires and Discrepancies in a Long-Term Relationship
Scott expresses frustration in his long-term relationship due to a difference in sexual desires and a lack of effort on his partner's part to fulfill his fantasies. Dr. Emily advises him to have an open and honest conversation with his wife about their sexual relationship and the desire for exploration. She suggests reframing the conversation around creating a stronger connection and becoming great lovers to each other, rather than focusing solely on specific fantasies. Dr. Emily also recommends seeking couples therapy to help facilitate communication and navigate any underlying issues or insecurities that may be arising.
In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking all about fantasies. Specifically, the ones you, the Sex With Emily community, shared with me! From threesomes to cuckolding to CNC - consensual nonconsent, I break down each one and also answer your top fantasy questions. What if you have a hard time visualizing your desires? What if you’re nervous to try sex acts you’ve already done with previous partners? I get into all this and more.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The psychology behind our top sexual fantasies
How to accept your fantasies, even when they feel like the most shameful
Success stories from listeners who turned their fantasies into realities
