Typology The Stories That Shape Us, feat. Melanie Shankle (Enneagram 9)
Jun 26, 2025
In this engaging conversation, Melanie Shankle, a three-time New York Times bestselling author and co-host of the Big Boo cast, shares her journey of self-discovery and healing in light of her turbulent childhood. She discusses the struggle with people-pleasing patterns and the transformative power of writing her latest book, 'Here Be Dragons'. Listeners explore how generational trauma impacts family dynamics, the importance of forgiveness, and the challenges of parenting while embracing grace and compassion. A heartfelt exploration of personal growth awaits!
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Melanie's Turbulent Childhood
- Melanie Shankle grew up in a turbulent home with a mother who likely had borderline personality disorder and addiction issues.
- She was cast as the "bad child" in a house full of conflict needing to keep everyone happy to avoid explosions.
Nines’ People-Pleasing Traits
- Nines adapt to fit their surroundings to avoid conflict and gain approval.
- This fosters a tendency for people-pleasing and difficulty advocating for oneself.
Book's Dual Story Origin
- The book originally focused on her daughter's struggles with mean girls in high school.
- A friend encouraged her to also explore how her own childhood shaped her healing and parenting journey.