215 SelfWork: Ten Fears You Choose to Face When You Risk Giving Up Control

Today’s podcast is one that, if you’ve been listening to SelfWork for a while, you know that this topic has been my own personal passion – as it’s closely aligned with my work on perfectly hidden depression. We’ll talk about ten fears you face when you choose to give up or ease out of being or looking as if you're in total control.

Those ten fears are:

• The fear of vulnerabilty
• The fear of uncertainty or unpredictability
• The fear of facing the past
• The fear of your anger exploding as it's been long suppressed
• The fear of not being able to forgive yourself/your imperfections
• The fear of there being no other way to succeed
• The fear of rejection
• The fear of not being needed
• The fear of being wrong
• The fear of intimacy

The listener email comes from a graduate psychology student whose experiencing greater and greater insecurity as the end of her training approaches. She wants to know if I felt the same way and what recommendations I could make. How do you bolster your self-confidence when you can’t measure the success of your efforts?

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