

How Jews Date in the Modern World (Re-Release)
17 snips Aug 5, 2025
Yosef Sokol, a psychologist studying the Shidduch crisis, Efrat Sobolofsky, director of YUConnects matchmaking, and Devorah Mansdorf Ajami, an endodontist who found love on JSwipe, explore modern Jewish dating dynamics. They discuss the diverse approaches across communities, from traditional matchmaking to dating apps, emphasizing how cultural values influence relationships. The conversation addresses challenges like age gaps, societal pressures, and the balance between modernity and tradition, providing insights into the quest for meaningful connections.
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Dating Beyond Information Asymmetry
- Dating is mainly about overcoming information asymmetries to reach true knowledge and commitment.
- The ultimate relationship knowledge begins only after true commitment is made between partners.
Hasidic Dating Centers on Parental Vetting
- Hasidic dating prioritizes data and parental knowledge over emotions in initial match-making.
- Parents pre-screen and decide matches to minimize emotional harm before boy and girl meet.
No Food Linked to Emotional Distance
- In Hasidic dating, no food is eaten during the dates to avoid creating emotional bonds prematurely.
- Decision-making focuses on logic and compatibility, not camaraderie, reflecting a traditional approach.