The Dildorks Open Impropriety
Oct 10, 2023
A frank conversation about polyamory boundary violations, from cuckolding play and disclosure dilemmas to where privacy lines fall. They debate who should set and communicate limits and how to repair breaches without blaming. Kink rituals, recognizing resentment, and coordinating new relationships come up. They also talk about fantasizing during sex and navigating early-stage dating needs.
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Cuckolding Play Without Third-Party Disclosure
- Kate describes cuckolding-adjacent play where she tells her partner explicit details about dates and gives them tasks to think about her date.
- She questions whether third parties on those dates need to be informed about this eroticizing.
Share Only What Feels Consensual To Others
- If you share erotic details about another partner, consider whether those details feel like secrets they gave you in confidence.
- If details are about your own experience or value (being desired), you may keep them private unless the third party would be affected.
Desirability vs. Involving Third Parties
- Eroticizing your desirability (being desired by others) feels different from creating a sexual experience involving a third party.
- The latter becomes ethically fuzzier when the third party is unknowingly implicated in shared erotic intimacy.
