Calm Parenting Podcast Quick Tips for Dads Ep. 8: How to Motivate Undisciplined or Lazy Kids Not Living Up to Their Potential
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Dec 19, 2025 Worried about your kids' motivation? This discussion dives into how parental anxiety can influence children and emphasizes the importance of patience. Discover how kids have different priorities and why criticism can hurt strong-willed youth. Learn to identify the strengths hidden behind annoying behaviors and how to frame those into a positive vision for your child's potential. Plus, practical tips like leaving short affirming notes to boost their confidence are shared!
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Kids Prioritize Differently Than Adults
- Parents project their adult values onto kids and expect them to match maturity prematurely.
- Kirk Martin says children prioritize differently and will develop responsible habits with time.
Stop Piling On; Notice Strengths
- Stop lecturing, threatening, and piling on; those tactics haven't worked so far.
- Kirk Martin advises noticing and highlighting your child's strengths instead of constant correction.
Irritating Traits Can Predict Success
- The traits that irritate parents often predict a child's future success.
- Kirk Martin notes persistence and independence can become career strengths.