The discussion dives into the nuances of true humility versus false modesty. It highlights how genuine humility can empower self-expression rather than diminish it. Listeners are urged to embrace flaws while navigating self-identity and the importance of impartiality. The conversation reflects on Martin Luther King's courage as a model for authentic humility and the need for self-awareness in coaching roles. Finally, the journey of evolving humility within a community context unveils the balance between ego and authenticity.
Humility is about not taking the world personally and not defending oneself, allowing for a deeper intimacy with life.
True humility involves stepping into one's personal power and taking up space, while remaining undefended and open to experiences.
Deep dives
Defining Humility and Ego
Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less. It is about not taking the world personally and not defending oneself. Humility is seeing that there is nothing to defend and not taking life personally. It allows for a deeper intimacy with life, as it is a state of openness and acceptance.
The Difference between Humility and Disempowerment
Humility is not synonymous with disempowerment. Disempowerment often occurs when people use humility as a means to avoid conflict or to make themselves small. True humility involves stepping into one's personal power and taking up space, while remaining undefended and open to experiences. It is about listening to one's calling and being willing to face challenges and potential attacks with an open heart.
Promoting Yourself with Humility
Promoting oneself and one's work can be done with humility. It requires recognizing one's calling or vision and being willing to shine a light on it, even if it feels uncomfortable. Humility in self-promotion involves understanding that it is not about personal gain or validation, but about sharing one's gifts or message with the world. It is staying true to oneself while remaining open to criticism and aware of the potential pitfalls of ego and defensiveness.
Humility in Coaching and Courses
Humility is essential in coaching and facilitation. It is about being a mirror for others, allowing them to project their experiences onto you without getting defensive. It involves being invisible and allowing the focus to be on the person being coached. Humility also requires taking risks, saying uncomfortable things, and being willing to face potential attacks for the sake of others' growth and healing.
Joe and Brett invite questions from listeners on the subject of humility.
How can we tell the difference between true humility and false modesty? What does it look like to be humble while fully expressing ourselves? What happens when 'humility' gets used to make ourselves or others small?
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