Episode 7 - How People Pleasing Poisons submission

Submission is an active state. It is a choice to surrender certain parts of life to the authority of a Dominant partner who the submissive trusts to take charge and lead in those areas. 

People pleasing is silent by nature. It is the attempt to secure love or affection by behaving in ways that the pleaser believes (mostly subconsciously) will compel their partner to treat them the way they want to be treated. Often, it shows up by going along with whatever the other person wants while ignoring one’s own needs completely. 

A healthy Dominant/submissive dynamic says all of this out loud. Both parties agree that the Dominant is in charge, the submissive will obey. 

People pleasing says it covertly. The pleaser wants her Dominant to treat her a certain way, so she begins to act in ways that she believes will get her treated that way. In our dynamic, I take control, lead, and make decisions. All things I like. It allows Dawn to relax, be feminine, and experience the emotional freedom of not being the one in control. All things she likes. 

We have equal power to pursue the relationship we want to have. I have the authority to make those desires into reality. 

In this episode, we dive into people pleasing, authenticity, and authentic expression in a way that any submissive, or any Dominant who wants to treat a submissive with love and respect, needs to hear. We hope you enjoy!

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