The Shame Hot Potato in Relationships

In this podcast, the hosts discuss the concept of the 'shame hot potato' in relationships, whether it be in teams, marriages, or even countries. They define the shame hot potato as a dynamic where one person tries to pass their shame onto the other, creating a cycle of blame and defensiveness. They mention that this dynamic can be observed when conflicts are focused on blame rather than finding solutions or understanding each other's perspectives. Examples of the shame hot potato include constant conflict in a marriage or a company, with a focus on blaming the other party rather than taking responsibility for one's own actions. The hosts emphasize the importance of breaking this cycle by withholding judgment, seeking understanding, and taking responsibility for one's actions without resorting to shame.