The Art of Accomplishment The Shame Hot Potato
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Dec 22, 2023 Explore the intriguing dynamics of the 'shame hot potato,' where individuals project their shame onto others, leading to blame and conflict. Discover how this pattern impacts relationships and organizations alike. The discussion emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in breaking unhealthy cycles and fostering emotional integrity. Additionally, learn about the connection between shame and emotional responses, and how confronting rather than burying these feelings can lead to personal growth and improved interactions.
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Shame Hot Potato Dynamic
- The "shame hot potato" dynamic describes how people in conflict try to shift blame and shame onto each other.
- This unproductive pattern appears in various settings, from marriages to geopolitics.
Unmarried Couple and Shame
- Joe Hudson recounts working with an unmarried couple navigating pregnancy and shame.
- He highlights how triggering each other's shame fueled ongoing conflict, illustrating the "shame hot potato" dynamic.
Blame as an Indicator
- In conflicts driven by shame, the focus shifts from finding solutions to assigning blame.
- This tendency to blame others is a key indicator of the shame hot potato dynamic at play.