Beyond Success Why Traditional Psychotherapy Often Fails for Men
Most men, especially hypermasculine men, feel like therapy doesn’t work for them. Or worse yet, that therapy could never work for them.
And I get it. Not only are up to 80% of mental health workers women, but traditional psychotherapy operates through a feminine lens that further alienates masculine men.
When men go through traditional therapy, they often feel discouraged, angry, and unheard. Because the feminine approach doesn't account for their lifelong conditioning about how emotions make you weak.
But nothing could be further from the truth: Not only do emotions add all the spice to life that makes it worth living, but mastering your emotions makes you more productive and more fulfilled too.
In this episode, I explain why traditional psychotherapy often doesn’t work for men, and I reveal four ways masculine men can start to accept their emotions, undo their conditioning, and use therapy to help them accomplish their goals.
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Show Highlights Include:
- Why many men are on the path that only leads to emptiness, regret, and extreme loneliness (and how to jump off this path) (1:24)
- The single biggest barrier to effective therapy for men (6:14)
- The “color of life” mindset shift that instantly makes you feel more okay with your emotions (7:43)
- How the feminine approach to therapy practiced by most therapists renders therapy useless (and how to experience a more masculine—and effective—approach) (8:09)
- All men who have resistance to their emotions needs to listen here: (13:39)
- This one question will start to undo your conditioning that emotions are obstacles to be avoided or solved (15:16)
- How a relentless drive to be productive and successful robs you of all the joys of life and turns you into an emotionless robot (19:25)
- 6 ways to get buy-in from your masculine protector parts that can make therapeutic effective (and an example of how one of my clients went through this process) (22:15)
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