176. How using The "S.U.C.K. " Acronym Will Change Your Divorce

This week, Morgan and Andrea flip the script and want you to SUCK at divorce. Yep, you read that right. Learn how to Set aside your feelings, Utilize experts, Calm your nervous system, and Know the facts: a game-changing framework that’ll help you make better decisions (and fewer expensive mistakes) during your divorce.

From cortisol spikes to co-parenting apps, nervous-system hacks, and even Amazon finds that actually don’t suck, the girls cover it all ...with the perfect blend of legal insight, emotional honesty, and wine-soaked humor you’ve come to expect.

🧠 What You’ll Learn

• Why your emotions are the worst business partners during divorce — and how to manage them
• How to think like a CEO (even when you feel like a hot mess)
• When and how to actually use your divorce experts
• Simple science-based tricks to calm your body in moments of panic
• How to separate facts from feelings to protect your sanity (and your wallet)

🛠️ The SUCK Framework

S – Set aside your feelings

U – Utilize experts

C – Calm your nervous system

K – Know the facts (and stick to them)

🥂 Quote of the Week

“Divorce is a marathon — or as Andrea would spell it, a Martha-thon"

Timestamps:

05:01 – The Hulu Show That Made Us Cringe

Andrea reviews All’s Fair — the all-female divorce firm drama starring Kim Kardashian — and the verdict? “It sucks.” (Which turns out to be the perfect segue…)

07:46 – Introducing the SUCK Acronym

Morgan and Andrea unveil a new framework that will actually help you survive your divorce with your dignity intact:

S – Set aside your feelings

U – Utilize experts

C – Calm your nervous system

K – Know the facts (and stick to them)

09:02 – Step 1: Set Aside Your Feelings

Morgan explains the science behind emotional flooding (hello, cortisol!) and how to think like a businessperson instead of a brokenhearted one.

10:34 – Andrea’s Advice for the Highly Emotional

If you can’t be calm — pretend to be someone who can. Channel your inner TV badass (minus the tire-slashing).

11:35 – Step 2: Utilize Experts

Morgan reminds listeners: you hired your experts for a reason. Don’t go rogue.

12:55 – Why Ignoring Your Attorney’s Advice Backfires

Andrea walks through what happens when clients do the opposite of what their lawyer says — and how to avoid a legal disaster.

15:59 – Step 3: Calm Your Nervous System

Andrea and Morgan dig into the physical side of stress. What happens in your body when your ex drops a bombshell — and how to get your calm back.

17:54 – Morgan’s “20-Minute Rule” for Freakouts

She shares a practical strategy: take 20–30 minutes before responding to any major divorce news. No driving, no emailing, no rage-texting.

19:44 – Andrea’s Panic-Proof Toolkit

The “panic attack queen of Chicago” shares her science-backed tricks: movement, cold exposure, vagus-nerve activation, and a hilarious deck of cards that actually help.

22:29 – Step 4: Know the Facts and Stick to Them

Morgan explains why emotional storytelling wastes time and money — and how bullet-pointed facts will save your case.

23:50 – Feelings Aren’t Facts

Andrea breaks down why your opinions about “Brenda being a nut job” won’t hold up in court.

25:07 – How It All Comes Together

Andrea explains how each SUCK step builds on the next — from calming your system to using your experts effectively.

26:46 – Recap: Why You Need to SUCK

Morgan summarizes the SUCK method and introduces their thriving online communities.

27:53 – The Community Shoutouts

They celebrate the rapid growth of their private and post-divorce Facebook groups (and tease upcoming expert videos).

29:17 – Andrea’s Favorite Amazon Finds

Ice rollers, mood-light sconces, and gifts that make your friends’ day — because retail therapy totally counts as healing.

30:44 – Morgan’s $40 Spanx Dupe

The jumpsuit that broke the internet (and didn’t break the bank).

33:57 – Red Light Special

Andrea’s bedroom lighting hack turns hilariously NSFW — and somehow ties back to the theme of “sucking.”

Resources:

Our Divorce Crash Course was designed to hold your hand through the process and help you avoid major and expensive mistakes. Learn more here: https://www.hownottosuckatdivorce.com/divorce-crash-course

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Amazon Links:

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