Poh Ling Yeow shares wisdom in owning bad decisions, moving forward with empathy. Her journey from outsider to TV success, navigating relationships and loss. Breaks from cultural norms, embracing imperfections. Discusses 'stick it to me' phrase, self-compassion, and imperfect cookbook ideas.
Maintaining friendships post-divorce showcases personal growth.
Embracing responsibility for past decisions fosters positive growth.
Deep dives
Recognizing Traditional Owners and Acknowledging Imperfections
Recognizing the traditional owners of the land, the podcast explores the imperfections of individuals through storytelling. The speaker engages with guests willing to share their struggles and imperfections, fostering vulnerability.
Transition and Relationship Dynamics
Ryan Shelton recounts his divorce journey, highlighting the shift in dynamics with his partner and their ability to maintain a friendship despite separation. The story delves into the complexities of personal growth and relationships.
Lessons of Resilience and Self-Discovery
The speaker reflects on personal challenges, such as navigating grief and embracing wisdom through difficult experiences. The narrative underscores the importance of taking ownership of decisions and finding resilience amidst life's adversities.
Connection to Natural Order and Meaningful Actions
Discussing the importance of embracing the natural order of life, the episode emphasizes the significance of mindful actions and meaningful connections. Delving into examples like cooking and the nuances of choice, it explores the impact of granularity in fostering gratitude and purpose.
Finding Safety and Community in the Church
A 16-year-old joined the church seeking safety and belonging in a strict environment with moral guidance. The church provided a wholesome and welcoming community that felt accepting and supportive, especially during a time of feeling like an outsider. Leaving the church later in life was influenced by experiencing different perspectives and cultures while traveling, leading to a shift in mindset.
Owning Mistakes and Learning from Decisions
Reflecting on past decisions, the importance of fully accepting responsibility for choices made is highlighted. Show empathy towards oneself when considering past decisions, understanding the circumstances and mindset at that time. Utilize any past mistakes as valuable learning experiences to inform and shape future decisions in a positive way.
Have you ever made a really bad decision? Made a call that you couldn’t undo? It's a fear for many, and for others, living with the reality of a ‘roll of the dice’ gone wrong, is cause for great sadness, and discomfort.
But, there is wisdom in mistakes. And for Poh Ling Yeow, learning to own her bad decisions, meant she could move forward with empathy and acceptance.
A skill she's honed through a life of ‘magooing’ to her way onto our screens through Master Chef, into our kitchens through cookbooks, and very much into our hearts. (Ref. Mr. Magoo).
In fact, the level of maturity Poh is able to bring to so much of her life, is unlike anyone we’ve ever met before.
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.