126: How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who’s Not That Into You

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Feb 28, 2025

Dive into the maze of limerence, where obsession clouds judgment. Discover why we obsess over unavailable people and the childhood patterns that skew our perception of attraction. The discussion explores how to break free from this cycle using IFS techniques and practical tools. It tackles the fears that keep us tied to unhealthy relationships, pushing us to confront uncomfortable truths. With insights on self-worth and healing, this episode invites you to reclaim your emotional power and redefine what true intimacy feels like.

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Intro

00:00 • 8min

Understanding Limerence Through Personal Patterns and Healing

08:01 • 5min

Confronting Self-Worth and Inner Conflicts

12:35 • 2min

Navigating Obsession in Relationships

14:30 • 8min

Breaking the Cycle of Relationship Obsession

22:18 • 3min

Healing from Relationship Obsession: Finding Strength Within

25:33 • 10min

Why do we obsess over people who give us nothing? Why does unavailability make someone more attractive? And how do you break free from this cycle for good?

In this solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into limerence—the psychological trap that keeps you fixated on the wrong people. But this isn't just about dopamine and attachment theory; this episode goes further, exploring:

The real reason you can’t stop thinking about them (hint: it’s not because they’re special).
How childhood patterns train your brain to mistake anxiety for attraction.
Why fantasy and longing feel safer than real emotional intimacy.
IFS (Internal Family Systems) techniques to uncover and heal the wounded parts of you that keep chasing the unavailable.
How to disrupt the obsession cycle with practical, body-based tools.
The question that will break the spell: What am I afraid will happen if I let them go?

If you’re stuck in your head, constantly replaying what-if scenarios, or convincing yourself they must be the one—this episode is for you. It’s time to step out of the fantasy and reclaim your power.

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