The Psychology of your 20s 358. Why you should decentre romance in your 20s
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Nov 28, 2025 Dive into the complexities of romance in your 20s as societal pressures elevate love to peak importance. Explore the dangers of chasing validation over genuine connection and how early commitments can close off future opportunities. Discover the value of treating this decade as a time for self-discovery and personal goals. Learn ways to balance romantic pursuits with friendships and self-care, and why focusing on fulfilling personal challenges attracts better love. It's time to reframe our relationships and fill our own cups first!
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Costly Early Dating Regret
- Jemma Sbeg shares regret about focusing on dating at 19 and losing friendships to a relationship.
- She says chasing validation from men cost time she could've spent exploring and figuring herself out.
Romance As A Public Progress Marker
- Romance is socially celebrated so it becomes an obvious external marker of progress.
- This public recognition pushes people to prioritise relationships over other meaningful goals.
How Milestone Anxiety Warps Choices
- Milestone anxiety shifts decision-making from discernment to urgency and impulsivity.
- That urgency increases the risk of choosing the wrong partner and narrative foreclosure.