The Psychology of your 20s 358. Why you should decentre romance in your 20s
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Nov 28, 2025 Dive into the complexities of romance in your 20s as societal pressures elevate love to peak importance. Explore the dangers of chasing validation over genuine connection and how early commitments can close off future opportunities. Discover the value of treating this decade as a time for self-discovery and personal goals. Learn ways to balance romantic pursuits with friendships and self-care, and why focusing on fulfilling personal challenges attracts better love. It's time to reframe our relationships and fill our own cups first!
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Narrative Foreclosure Risks
- Narrative foreclosure makes people settle early and later regret giving away formative years.
- Jemma cites research linking marrying too young to higher divorce rates and regret.
Your Twenties Should Be Selfish
- Your twenties are a selfish decade intended for exploration, growth, and identity formation.
- Prioritising romance can make you lose identity, time, and the focus needed for personal goals.
Dating As Emotional Bypass
- Dating can be used to emotionally bypass inner work by seeking external validation.
- That external validation won't heal insecurities and can worsen them over time.