Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2793: Six Ways to Deal With Unwanted Dating Advice by Dr. Diana Kirschner of Love In 90 Days on Dating Boundaries
Nov 9, 2025
Explore empowering strategies to handle unsolicited dating advice gracefully. Dr. Diana Kirschner emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and boundary-setting. She introduces concepts like 'Positive Paranoia' to encourage focusing on the love behind criticism. Learn how to reframe your thoughts and communicate effectively with advice-givers. If all else fails, setting clear boundaries with toxic individuals can protect your peace. Practical examples illustrate how to replace negativity with affirming support from loved ones.
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Use The Therapist's Secret
- Refuse to engage in disagreements when you get unsolicited dating advice by calmly nodding and saying, "that's the way you see it."
- Use this therapist's secret to deflect criticism and protect your peace without escalating conflict.
Reframe Criticism As Care
- Practice "positive paranoia" by assuming loved ones mean well even when their comments sting.
- Focusing on their core love reduces paranoia and increases the care you receive.
Shift Your Thoughts Proactively
- When advice feels critical, purposefully think thoughts that acknowledge the giver's love and intent.
- This mental shift lowers suffering and helps you get more positive from difficult people.