You Learn This Too Late: Understanding This Will Change the Way You Look at Your Relationships

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Jul 28, 2025

Dr. Aliza Pressman, a renowned developmental psychologist and author, shares profound insights into how childhood experiences shape adult relationships. She discusses the hidden mistakes parents often make that can impact their kids for life. Listeners will discover five essential principles of parenting, the importance of emotional support, and how to improve connections with loved ones. Aliza highlights the unique parenting needs based on a child's temperament and emphasizes self-compassion and community support for parents navigating their challenges.

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INSIGHT

Small Changes Break Cycles

Parenting science shows small changes significantly improve relationships and emotional health.
Reflection and intentionality break negative cycles and support healthier parenting.

ADVICE

The Five Parenting Principles

Focus your parenting on relationship, reflection, regulation, rules, and repair.
Repair after mistakes is crucial to maintain strong relationships.

ADVICE

Feelings Welcome, Behaviors Bound

Accept all feelings as valid but set boundaries on behaviors.
Let children express emotions safely while enforcing limits on unacceptable actions.

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In this episode, you’ll discover how your childhood shaped who you are today—and the hidden parenting mistakes that impact every relationship you have.

You’ll also learn tools for excellent parenting and how to improve any relationship, including with your own parents, siblings, partner, kids, and friends.

Joining Mel today is Dr. Aliza Pressman, PhD. Dr. Pressman is a world‑renowned developmental psychologist, professor at Mount Sinai, director of The Mount Sinai Parenting Center, and author of the New York Times bestseller The 5 Principles of Parenting.

For over two decades, she’s been teaching parents practical science‑backed tools to raise emotionally healthy, resilient kids—and to become better, more grounded humans in the process.

Today, Dr. Pressman breaks down 5 principles that will change how you parent forever. You’ll hear the research on how early experiences shape who you become, why oversacrificing for your kids backfires, and the surprising ways criticizing your partner or ex can quietly wound your child for life.

You’ll also learn protocols for excellent parenting and how to improve relationships of all kinds, from setting boundaries that actually work, to repairing after you’ve lost your cool, to strengthening your child’s inner voice by changing the way you talk to yourself.

This isn’t just about raising kids. It’s about learning how to be a better human (and raise one too). Whether you’re parenting toddlers, teenagers, or adult children—or simply trying to understand the impact your own parents had on you—this conversation will give you clear, actionable tools you can use immediately.

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