Life After Ministry Balancing the Business Brain and the Pastoral Heart (featuring Dave Fletcher)
What do scuba diving, salary spreadsheets, and severance packages have in common? According to David Fletcher - everything.
In this episode, Matt sits down with the founder of xPastor and longtime executive pastor, David Fletcher, to talk about the messy, complicated, and deeply human work of leadership transitions in the church.
They unpack the real cost of bad transitions - not just in dollars, but in broken trust.
Dave shares stories from his 30+ years in ministry, including firing people he loved, navigating church politics without losing his soul, and why a generous severance might be the best culture-shaping tool a church has.
You'll also hear how he and his wife built a thriving marriage in the middle of ministry chaos, and why their daily Starbucks date is sacred.
It's honest. It's wise. It’s surprisingly funny. And it’s a masterclass for anyone leading people, especially in the church.
Key Takeaways- The Business Brain + Pastor’s Heart: Every ministry decision is both relational and organizational. You need both instincts.
- Why Fit Matters More Than Failure: Most terminations aren’t about incompetence - they’re about misalignment.
- The $300,000 Mistake: Dave breaks down the actual financial cost of a poor staff transition.
- Tell the Truth Without Telling Everything: How to communicate firings to staff and congregation without gossip or spin.
- Marriage and Ministry: Why laughing, insider jokes, and iced tea matter more than most leadership books.
- Give It Away: Why Dave gives away nearly everything on XPastor.org - and what it’s doing for churches worldwide.
- 00:00 – Intro & How Greek (Yes, Greek) Led Dave into Ministry
- 02:30 – The Wild Ride from Kids Ministry to XP
- 04:45 – Why the Executive Pastor Role Is All-In
- 06:30 – Letting People Go with Dignity
- 08:15 – Calculating the Real Cost of Bad Transitions
- 12:45 – How to Communicate a Termination (Without Creating a Firestorm)
- 15:30 – What’s Changed in the Church (Spoiler: Everything)
- 18:00 – Should Every Pastor Be Bivocational Now?
- 22:00 – Health, Marriage, and the Art of Insider Jokes
- 26:00 – Behind the Madness of the XPastor Seminar
- 28:45 – Fair Salaries and Why They Matter
- 32:00 – The Goal: Fully Enjoy God
If you’re navigating a leadership transition or just want to do ministry with more clarity, courage, and peace - check out the free resources at ministrytransitions.com. And for coaching, salary tools, or to attend the next XPastor Seminar, visit xpastor.org. It’s the guide you wish you had years ago.