A parent and their 13-year-old son both discover they are on the autism spectrum, sparking questions about how to navigate a neurotypical world. Journalist Lauren Ober shares advice for living as a newly diagnosed neurodivergent person. The podcast explores understanding autism, the challenges of disclosure, and the importance of accommodations.
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Understanding one's neurodivergent diagnosis allows for self-compassion and effective communication of needs.
Disclosure of neurodivergence should be approached carefully, seeking allies for support, and fostering empathy and inclusivity in society.
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The Power of Diagnosis and Self-Understanding
Discovering that he and his son are on the autism spectrum helped Dave gain a deeper understanding of himself and his experiences. It provided him with an explanation for his quirks and challenges, relieving the feeling of shame he had carried for years. While the diagnosis did not offer a quick fix, it allowed him to approach life with more self-compassion and grace, and to communicate his needs more effectively. Dave emphasized the importance of finding a sense of purpose and connection within the neurodivergent community, and mentioned resources such as support groups and books that have helped him on his journey.
Navigating Disclosure and Communication
Both Dave and Lauren discussed the challenges and complexities of disclosure. They highlighted the need to gauge the situation and determine who needs to know about their neurodivergence. While it can be empowering to share about their experiences, they also recognized that not everyone would understand. They stressed the significance of finding allies and buddies who can offer support and understanding. They also emphasized the importance of being honest with oneself and others about needs and preferences in communication, even if it doesn't involve disclosing the specific diagnosis.
Building Understanding and Acceptance
Dave and Lauren reflected on the need for greater understanding and acceptance of neurodivergent individuals in society. They expressed hope for a future where people are more aware and accommodating of neurodivergent differences. They shared personal anecdotes about misunderstandings and challenges in navigating social interactions and workplace environments. Both emphasized the importance of educating others and fostering empathy and inclusivity to create a more accepting and supportive world.
Finding Strength in Neurodivergent Identity
Dave and Lauren discussed finding strength and identity within their neurodivergent experiences. They acknowledged that being neurodivergent is not a flaw or limitation, but rather a different way of experiencing the world. They highlighted the unique perspectives and abilities neurodivergent individuals often possess. They encouraged embracing individual strengths and interests, as well as seeking connection with others who share similar experiences. They emphasized the importance of self-acceptance, self-advocacy, and finding joy in being authentically oneself.
It’s a family joke that Dave and his 13 year-old son are the same person. So when his son found out he is autistic, Dave realized that he, too, is on the autism spectrum. The label is a comfort—a reassurance that his personality “quirks” have an explanation. But, at the same time, it’s led to all of these questions like should he tell people? What does this change, if anything? And how does he learn to navigate a neurotypical world? On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings in journalist and podcast host, Lauren Ober. Lauren documented her own autism journey on The Loudest Girl In the World. She has lots of advice for living life as a newly diagnosed neurodivergent person.
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