38: Social Anxiety: How to Overcome It for Good

The number one reason social anxiety is so painful is because it reinforces the illusion of separation. We are all connected, we are all one but we live in a world which makes this so hard to remember. The illusion of separation starts when we are young and we get teased or separated based on our grades, behavior or gender. It continues through our lives and makes us feel not part of something. Understanding that you are not alone, you are not separate and you are no less than anyone else is imperative to your emotional well-being and health. But, it’s not always easy. Some of us have painful experiences from our past that make social situations and making friends harder. Not everyone is an extrovert and for some people walking into a place where they don’t know anyone is like hell on earth. Remember, all people need friends and a soul family. Accept that about yourself and don’t use being introverted as an excuse not to go out and connect. The more you stop worrying about what others think and just show up authentically, the easier it will be to connect and the more your social anxiety will dissolve.  People are people, not big scary monsters. The next time you go to an event, have some questions in mind you can ask people beyond “How are you doing?” or “What do you do?” In today’s coaching session with Jenna, we explore why she is feeling social anxiety and isn’t able to maintain long-lasting friendships. And, I share why I was guided to coach her in a way that would shake her up a bit. I have a free gift for all of my podcast listeners. Here is how to receive my free ebook and meditation downloads. Also, I invite all of you to join me for my retreat in magical Bali, which will include meditation, yoga, one-on-one coaching and the opportunity to meet soul friends. E-mail Jill@ChristineHassler.com for information on how to join the festivities.   Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you suffer from social anxiety? Do you dread just thinking about going to an event or initiating a conversation? ● Is making friends challenging? ● Do you want more friends? ● Are you frustrated because you want to change something but just can’t seem to change it? ● Would you like to feel more connected in your life? Are you honest with yourself about why you keep yourself separate?   Jenna's Question: Jenna is frustrated over her inability to get over her social anxiety and is looking for guidance on how she can move past it.   Jenna's Key Insights and Aha’s: ● She may be triggered by feelings of rejection from her mother ● She believes there is something wrong with her ● She realizes that people aren’t thinking about her as much as she thinks they are ● She has all the ingredients she needs to be a friend and to connect   How to get over it and on with it: ● She has to stop making things about her ● She should practice being invested and connected to other people  ● She should write down the reasons why she is a great friend and read it every day ● She can be honest and simply ask for a friendship ● She should tell herself a different story   Reminders and Suggestions: ● People are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. ● Remember people are people. They are not big scary monsters.  ● Focus on what you can give. Think about all the amazing things you can bring to a friendship. ● A connection to your higher power is critical.   Sponsor: Onnit Wellness - Receive a 10% discount on your purchase when you order through this link (including my favorite Alpha Brain).   Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram Christine@christinehassler.com Jill@christinehassler.com Secret Sauce Mastermind