The Sabrina Zohar Show 161: Why You Overthink Love and Assume the Worst
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Sep 12, 2025 Why do we overthink love? This discussion dives into how our brains create rejection stories that fuel anxiety and inhibit connection. By exploring common narrative patterns like mind reading and timelines, listeners learn to recognize harmful thought cycles. The podcast provides insight into the neuroscience behind our fears and practical tools to separate fact from fiction. With an emphasis on clear communication and rewriting personal narratives, it inspires a path towards healthier, more authentic relationships.
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Why Your Brain Writes Stories
- Humans create narratives to make sense of incomplete information because meaning-making helped survival in evolution.
- Sabrina explains modern dating triggers the same rapid story-making even when no physical danger exists.
Fear Beats Reason In The Brain
- The amygdala reacts five to ten times faster than the prefrontal cortex, so fear precedes reason.
- Sabrina uses this neuroscience to explain why we jump to worst-case stories before we can analyze facts.
Family Contrast Shows Learned Patterns
- Sabrina contrasts her anxious upbringing with her brother's secure girlfriend who doesn't assume the worst.
- She uses this personal example to show how childhood shapes automatic threat narratives in relationships.