the goop podcast Why Love Starts with Loneliness
Feb 5, 2019
Alain de Botton discusses the complexities of relationships, emphasizing the fear of intimacy, diversity of love stories, and the importance of understanding deeper layers. The podcast also explores the upcoming wellness summit, the role of drama in relationships, and strategies to strengthen and nurture a loving relationship.
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Longing vs. Love
- Longing is safe and requires no other person, unlike love, which involves vulnerability.
- Love requires work, understanding, and translating your feelings into words for the other person.
The Root of Love
- Love begins with loneliness and a desire for connection, hoping for validation from another.
- Finding love can be scary because it makes us feel dependent and vulnerable to loss.
Childhood's Impact on Love
- We often feel unlovable due to unresolved issues from childhood, affecting our adult relationships.
- Therapy helps uncover these hidden narratives and understand our reactions in love.