Here’s why self-love is CRITICAL.
You think your problem is:
People pleasing
Perfectionism
Caring too much about what other people need
Overachieving
Imposter syndrome
But the root of all of those is a lack of self-love. And this isn’t in some woo-woo “all we need is love” kind of thing. I’ve coached thousands of people and the root of almost every problem is some underlying belief of:
I’m not good enough.
It’s a worth issue. Think about it.
That’s why we so desperately need other people to approve of or like us.
That’s why we try so hard to be perfect.
That’s why we keep checking off all the boxes society tells us to in order to be “good enough”.
They’re all defense mechanisms.
Because we’re terrified that somehow our deepest insecurity might be true…that maybe we’re really not good enough in some way.
And so we hustle…we perform…we give and give…
But no amount of other people’s love or accomplishments or perfection will ever outrun that thought.
If it would, you would’ve done it by now.
It only changes when we decide to change our own thoughts about ourselves.
It’s available to you right now.
No need to do or be anything else.
And it’s one of the most important skills to cultivate.
On today’s podcast episode, I dive deeper into why self-love is critical.