HOD Select: A New Framework for Dating in Our Modern Era with Jon Tyson
Jun 7, 2023
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Jon Tyson, a theologian and speaker specialized in dating and sexuality, joins Kait to discuss the theology of dating, sexual desire, and sexual urges. They explore the importance of developing a theology of dating and the challenges and value of singleness. The podcast also delves into the Bible's perspective on sexuality, the impact of modern sexuality, and the significance of personal growth and self-awareness in dating relationships.
Singleness provides an opportunity to serve, make a difference, and grow spiritually.
Controlling one's body with honor and respect is crucial for healthy relationships and intimacy.
Avoiding sexual immorality by resisting cultural pressures and embracing biblical teachings promotes sexual purity.
Deep dives
The Importance of Devoting Yourself to God
A key aspect of singleness is devoting oneself to Christ, deepening the relationship with Him, and growing in identity with Jesus. Singleness provides an opportunity to serve and make a difference in the kingdom of God, leveraging the extra time and energy that comes with being single. It also allows for freedom from the distractions of worldly concerns, enabling a deeper focus on spiritual growth and self-discovery. By cultivating holy ambition for the kingdom, singles can fully embrace their singleness and use it as a time for personal and spiritual formation.
Learning to Control One's Body
Learning to control one's own body in a way that is honorable and respectful is essential. This involves redirecting and shaping bodily urges, rather than giving in to sinful desires. It requires self-discipline and a commitment to living a life that is aligned with God's vision for sexuality. It is important to embrace the biblical understanding of sex and the purpose it serves in the context of marriage and the kingdom of God. Building self-awareness and developing a solid sense of self prepares individuals for healthy relationships and intimacy.
Avoiding Sexual Immorality
Avoiding sexual immorality is crucial in maintaining sexual purity and honoring God's design for sexuality. This requires understanding and resisting the cultural pressures and temptations that promote premarital sex or the consumption of pornography. Rather than giving in to societal norms and practices, Christians are called to pursue holiness and sexual integrity. By embracing biblical teachings and submitting to the leading of the Holy Spirit, individuals can resist the allure of sexual immorality and actively choose to live in accordance with God's will.
The Role of Friendship and Community
Building strong Christian friendships and engaging in supportive communities is vital for singles. The church should create a culture that celebrates and supports singleness, providing alternative moments of celebration and deep meaning. By fostering genuine friendships and cultivating authentic Christian community, singles can find encouragement, accountability, and support as they navigate the challenges and joys of singleness. These relationships can help singles grow spiritually, provide valuable perspectives, and offer companionship on their journey towards fulfilling God's purpose.
Mercy and Grace in Sexual Failure
It is important to emphasize the mercy and grace that Jesus extends to those who have struggled or failed in the realm of sexuality. Rather than dismissing or shaming individuals for past mistakes or struggles, Jesus offers forgiveness, healing, and redemption. His love and acceptance are always available, and it is never too late to seek His forgiveness and start afresh. The focus should be on developing a deeper relationship with Christ and allowing Him to transform hearts and minds, leading to a life that reflects His love and grace.
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