Today's guest is Homaira Kabir. Homaira holds Master’s degrees in Coaching Psychology and in Positive Psychology—the science of human flourishing and wellbeing—from the University of East London and has over a decade of experience as a life coach. She is the founder and CEO of the Goodbye Perfect Project, which she launched with the mission to bring science-backed, soulful support to help people break free of unhelpful patterns and own their purpose, voice, and impact. In this episode, Homaira shares valuable insights on how to build real confidence that lasts, and how to recognize the signs of being disconnected from our authentic selves. She provides tips on maintaining optimism and confidence during challenging times, and how to transform negative beliefs into positive action. We also discuss the differences between real confidence and fragile confidence and how to avoid becoming addicted to outcomes and so much more!

What to Listen For:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:26 Don’t fall into THIS confidence trap
• 03:14 Are you disconnected from your authentic self?
• 05:09 Where does someone’s “fragile confidence” come from? 
• 07:43 How to remain optimistic during difficult times
• 11:40 How to avoid becoming addicted to the outcome
• 14:21 Homaira was “hooked” on external validation
• 18:53 Did she feel pressured to succeed?
• 20:47 Transforming your relationship with external validation
• 23:57 Remaining confident during adversity 
• 26:39 Turning self compassion into action
• 29:05 The science of building confidence 
• 31:18 Letting go of what people think of you
• 34:14 Receiving criticism in a relationship 
• 38:44 How to build REAL confidence that lasts
• 44:15 Transforming negative self talk into empowering beliefs
• 46:50 The perfection trap

Episode Resources:

• Homaira | Instagram, Website, Book

⚠ WELLNESS DISCLAIMER ⚠

Please be advised; the topics related to mental health in my content are for informational, discussion, and entertainment purposes only. The content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your mental health professional or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding your current condition. Never disregard professional advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard from your favorite creator, on social media, or shared within content you’ve consumed.

If you are in crisis or you think you may have an emergency, call your doctor or 911 immediately.

If you do not have a health professional who is able to assist you, use these resources to find help:

Emergency Medical Services—911

If the situation is potentially life-threatening, get immediate emergency assistance by calling 911, available 24 hours a day.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org. 

SAMHSA addiction and mental health treatment Referral Helpline, 1-877-SAMHSA7 (1-877-726-4727) and https://www.samhsa.gov

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices