Ange Nolan once suspected she had ADHD, but she was dismissed by her doctor. Years later, she saw an ADHD iceberg infographic and related to almost every ADHD symptom it listed — including forgetting to use the bathroom. That’s when she decided it was time to approach a different doctor about ADHD. 

After getting diagnosed with ADHD last year, Ange realized how it had been affecting her many romantic relationships. She’d crave the chaos of an intense connection and become a “chameleon” who fixated on her partner’s interests and happiness — until burning out.  

Hear how Ange’s ADHD diagnosis helped her notice her own patterns, including hopping impulsively from one career to another. And stay tuned for a mini “aha” moment from host Laura Key on why she likes to be alone so much. 

To find a transcript for this episode and more resources, visit the episode page at Understood.  

Ange is a listener who wrote to us about her “aha” moment. We’d love to hear from you, too. Email us at ADHDAha@understood.org.  

Related resources

• ADHD and emotions
• Understanding impulsivity
• ADHD and marriage (Rachel and Jon’s story)

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