The Daily
Sunday Special: Un-Marry Me!
Feb 18, 2024
David Finch, author of "The Journal of Best Practices," shares his unique journey of navigating marriage while living with autism. He recounts how he meticulously documented best practices to be a better husband, only to face the shocking news when his wife wanted to be 'unmarried.' The conversation dives into the complexities of emotional authenticity, self-discovery, and the importance of personal growth within relationships. Finch’s humorous and poignant reflections highlight the balance between individuality and connection in love.
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- Embracing adaptability and understanding differences in relationships lead to personal growth.
- Allowing individual happiness and supporting personal growth can strengthen a marriage.
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Dave's Overpowering Need for Order and Predictability
Dave Finch struggled with an overpowering need for order and predictability, which caused tensions in his marriage. He would spiral into panic if routines were disrupted, leading to conflicts with his wife. A diagnosis of Asperger's, an autism spectrum disorder, changed everything. Dave began to understand how his brain worked differently and realized that predictability was crucial for him. He came up with a list of rules to be a better partner, such as being present with the kids and listening to his wife. Through this process, Dave learned the importance of adaptability and changed his perspective on being a husband.
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