The Psychology of your 20s 72. Attachment styles, non-negotiables and dating men ft. Chidera Eggerue
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Feb 14, 2023 Chidera Eggerue, aka the Slumflower, is a bestselling author known for her empowering works on self-love and resilience. In this engaging discussion, she dives into attachment styles and how they stem from childhood experiences. Chidera shares insights on setting boundaries and recognizing non-negotiables in dating. The conversation highlights the importance of self-worth, breaking free from toxic patterns, and reclaiming personal power. With candid anecdotes, listeners gain valuable tools for healthier relationships and emotional independence.
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Parental Relationship and Abuse
- Chidera Eggerue hasn't spoken to her mother since 2018 due to emotional abuse.
- This decision influenced her approach to relationships with men, realizing she accepted less because of past trauma.
Detaching from Abusive Relationships
- Observe your relationship with parents, especially if abusive, to understand how it affects your romantic relationships.
- Educate yourself on abuse and detach mentally before physically leaving.
Attachment Styles and the Cycle of Abuse
- Abusive relationships create a cycle where love and hurt are intertwined.
- This makes it difficult to accept genuine love and care later on, as it triggers fear of the other shoe dropping.
