Establishing boundaries in dating involves setting non-negotiables and demanding mutual respect.
Finding a balance between independence and interdependence is crucial for healthy relationships.
Quality control in relationships includes recognizing who deserves your energy and love.
Deep dives
Setting Non-negotiables in Dating
Establishing clear boundaries in dating is crucial. It involves setting non-negotiables like financial stability, avoiding controlling behavior, and demanding mutual respect. An introspective approach to relationships can lead to healthier choices and avoid overlooking personal needs.
Navigating Healthy Interdependence
Finding a balance between independence and interdependence is a journey. Learning to accept care and support from those who love you is a key step in fostering healthy relationships. It's about recognizing your worth and allowing others to contribute positively to your life.
The Importance of Quality Control
Establishing a quality control process in relationships involves conscious decisions about who you choose to share your time and energy with. It's about recognizing when someone deserves the energy and love you offer and being open to receiving the same level of care in return.
Boundaries and Agency
Asserting boundaries and owning agency in relationships is empowering. It's about recognizing your needs and ensuring they are met, rather than compromising and diminishing your own worth to accommodate others. Honoring your boundaries establishes a healthy dynamic.
Nurturing self-worth and Deserving Love
Embracing a journey of self-discovery and self-worth is essential in attracting healthy relationships. Acknowledging past experiences and traumas allows for growth and readiness to welcome genuine love and appreciation. It's about valuing yourself and expecting reciprocity in relationships.
This week I am joined by Chidera Eggerue, otherwise known as the Slumflower, host of the Slumflower Hour and author of the Number 1 Sunday Times Bestsellers What a Time to be Alone (2018) and How to Get Over a Boy (2020) to discuss attachment styles, how to set boundaries and non-negotiables when dating men. We discuss the own hard lessons we’ve learnt through our intimate relationships, how to reclaim your power, the psychology behind why we accept the bare minimum and so much more. Listen now!