
Becoming You with Suzy Welch The Lies We Tell About Love with "We Met At Acme"'s Lindsey Metselaar
Oct 14, 2025
Lindsey Metselaar, host of We Met at Acme and expert on modern relationships, dives into the lies we tell about love and reveals surprising truths about desire for partnership. She shares her personal experiences with breakup and sobriety, examining how these shaped her view on love. The duo discusses intriguing data: men rank romantic partnership higher than women, and they explore why many single women might downplay their desire for love. It’s a lively conversation about values in relationships, the importance of honest discussions, and what truly drives our quest for connection.
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Podcast Born From A Breakup
- Lindsey Metselaar started We Met at Acme after being dumped on her 27th birthday and needed a place to process dating in NYC.
- She turned personal heartbreak into a long-running podcast exploring modern relationships and interviewing experts.
Men Show Higher Private Desire For Partnership
- Becoming You Labs found men are 70% more likely than women to rank belovedness in their top five values.
- Lindsey suggests men lean on partners for emotional needs while women draw more from female friendships.
Why Many Single Women Deprioritize Romance
- Many single women rank belovedness low; 41% put it in their bottom five values compared with 27% of single men.
- Hosts attribute this to dating fatigue, self-preservation, rebellion, or prioritizing achievement.



