Including Asexuality in the Conversation with Aubri Lancaster

Aubri Lancaster shares her expertise on asexuality and consent, introducing  frameworks like "favor vs. chore" and the spectrum from sex-favorable to sex-repulsed that apply to everyone regardless of orientation. She challenges our cultural understanding of intimacy and desire, offering practical tools for healthier relationships.

• Understanding consenting to unwanted sex - acknowledging when sex is consensual yet still unwanted
• Favor vs. chore framework - distinguishing between freely given acts and obligatory ones with consequences
• Consent tools including negotiation, safe words, and aftercare should be used in all sexual contexts, not just kink
• The spectrum from sex-favorable to sex-repulsed exists for everyone in different contexts
• Compulsory sexuality creates pressure that impacts everyone, especially asexual individuals
• Unbraiding different forms of intimacy (emotional, intellectual, sensual) creates more options
• Questioning the pathologization of low desire through diagnoses like HSDD
• Creating relationships where "a no is as welcome as a yes" 

Aubri Lancaster is an AASECT and ANTE UP! Certified Sexuality Educator. As a Greyromantic Asexual Jewish Femme, Aubri has lived experience and a connection to the Asexual and Aromantic communities that provides a unique perspective on the issues facing the changing landscape of sexuality and orientation. Aubri's services can be found at AceSexEducation.com including workshops, consulting, and training. She also offers free content on IG & TikTok at @AceSexEducation. When not working, Aubri spends her time with her spouse, her friends, her 8 year old, and her three adorable Chihuahuas.

Find Aubri Lancaster at www.acesexeducation.com