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Why Quitting Therapy Was Necessary for The Attachment Specialist

Oct 25, 2024

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Adam Lane Smith

In an engaging discussion, Adam Lane Smith, an attachment specialist and relationship coach, reveals why he left traditional therapy behind. He argues that conventional practices often leave people stuck and focused on endless sessions rather than real solutions. Adam shares practical strategies for couples to create lasting relationships and the importance of purpose in life. He also discusses his unique approach to coaching that is cost-effective and aimed at empowering clients, challenging the norms of the therapy industry.

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Helping Over Fame And Money

Adam Lane Smith rejects fame and money as primary goals and treats them as tools to reach more people.
His core motive is to help others find hope and build secure relationships through practical action.

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Childhood Of Broken Connections

Adam grew up in an expanded, broken family with abandonment, foster care, and adoption leading to disorganized attachment.
He became anxious and nonverbal as a child, developing perfectionism and fear of starting projects.

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Listening As A Turning Point

Adam discovered early that listening and a few honest words could shift people's emotional states.
This led him to become the go-to person for peers and sparked his path into helping professions.

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How Adam became the attachment specialist

00:19 • 2min

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Hopes versus practical results

02:00 • 1min

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Growing up in a broken family system

03:29 • 2min

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Finding purpose by listening to others

05:40 • 3min

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Choosing practical training over the ivory tower

08:14 • 53sec

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Meeting his wife and early marriage

09:07 • 3min

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Early career: correctional setting placement

12:35 • 9min

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Everyone is the hero in their story

21:54 • 5min

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From jail to home-treatment work

26:29 • 8min

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Systems thinking for lasting change

34:11 • 3min

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Writing simple, practical books

37:20 • 4min

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Purpose as the driver of endurance

41:09 • 2min

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Working across socioeconomic extremes

43:09 • 10min

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Creating purpose for suicidal youth

53:26 • 7min

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Why Adam quit traditional therapy

01:00:23 • 3min

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Non-dependence and short-term effectiveness

01:03:02 • 6min

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Scaling with trained coaches and programs

01:08:43 • 6min

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Program structure and oversight

01:14:56 • 4min

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Balancing family and mission

01:18:46 • 1min

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Transition to online content and controversy

01:19:50 • 7min

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Slaying Your Fear

A guide for people who grapple with insecurity

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In 'Slaying Your Fear,' Adam Lane Smith provides tools and perspectives to help individuals seize control of their lives and overcome destructive insecurity. The book focuses on practical steps to address insecurity rather than just discussing feelings around it.

🎙️ In this bold episode of "I Wish You Knew," Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, and Andrey Korikov, CEO and co-founder of Veritas Creative Media, tackle the broken therapy system and why Adam walked away from it.

Adam and Andrey explore the uncomfortable truths about traditional therapy practices, how they often leave people stuck without real solutions, and the importance of having a purpose in relationships and life. They discuss why Adam felt compelled to shift away from a system that prolongs suffering and how he's now on a mission to help people build secure relationships without financial strain.

This episode isn’t just a conversation—it’s a powerful call to action for anyone seeking true fulfillment in their relationships and life.

✨ Moments You Can’t Miss ✨:

👉 The shocking reason why Adam Lane Smith quit therapy.

👉 How therapy’s endless sessions might be draining your wallet without ever giving you real results.

👉 The make-or-break steps every couple needs to create a relationship that actually lasts.

👉 The manipulation tactics some avoidants use to justify their toxic behaviors.

👉 How every relationship can be repaired, but only if you're willing to do the work.

👉 Practical solutions to build secure connections without the financial burden of traditional therapy.

Get ready to hear the uncomfortable truths and practical advice on building lasting, authentic connections. 🎧

If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode where Teal Swan Brutally Dissects Modern Therapy & Healing:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWxUn_3ffa4&ab_channel=IWishYouKnewPodcast

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