SC 104 - How To Deal With An Avoidant Partner & Interpersonal Stress

Stan Tatkin returns and serves up another awesome dose of relationship advice through the lens of adult attachment. From how relationships impact your health, to helping your triggered or upset partner, to dealing with an avoidant partner, we cover a lot of ground as Stan answers 8 or so questions from you, the listener. This one is full of helpful tips to improve and enhance your connection over time.

• Why is the country feeling so much anxiety? [1:00]
• The effect that your ‘allostatic load’ has on your life [3:00]
• What chronic relationship stress can do to your health [5:00]
• How to not take things personally [8:00]
• Learning to ‘lead with relief’ to create a safer space for each other [12:00]
• A great way to handle your partner getting triggered [14:00]
• Why Carl Jung didn’t like taking patients under 35 [18:00]
• A rough guide to dealing with avoidant-types/islands [21:00]
• Should you force your teenager to make eye contact with you? [35:00]
• The power of ‘jointly attending’ with a resistant partner [37:00]
• ‘Parallel play’ and its hidden dangers [39:00]
• How to free up resources for higher development[42:00]