Laurence Alison and Neil Shortland, experts in forensic and security psychology, share insights from their book, Decision Time. They discuss navigating life-altering choices with strategies tailored from high-stakes situations. Common pitfalls like decision paralysis and rumination are explored, along with the importance of self-awareness in making effective decisions. The duo introduces a structured approach called the 'foxtrot pattern' to help listeners break free from indecision and make confident choices that align with their core values.
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Avoid Redundant Deliberation
When making extreme decisions, avoid redundant deliberation, where you endlessly cycle through options.
Instead, consider a few plausible options, manage your time, adapt to new information, and be willing to revise your plans.
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Decision Inertia and Courage
Decision inertia often stems from fear of loss and the difficulty of sacrificing one good option for another.
Overcoming inertia requires courage to accept potential loss and choose the least-worst option if needed.
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COVID Wedding Decision
Neil Shortland and his wife faced the difficult decision of whether to have a small COVID wedding or postpone their larger celebration.
They chose the smaller wedding, demonstrating courage by accepting the loss of their original plans while prioritizing their values.
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Decision Time
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Decision Time by Laurence Alison and Neil Shortland offers practical advice on decision-making by applying techniques used in high-stakes environments to everyday life. The book provides interactive tools and scenarios to help readers navigate complex choices such as career changes, relationships, and major life moves. It emphasizes awareness and mental preparation to make informed decisions.
There are little decisions to make in life like what to wear to work and what to eat for lunch. Then there are potentially life-changing decisions like whether to move, take a new job, break up with someone, or get married. With these big decisions, you may never have faced that choice before, have to sacrifice one path to choose another, and have a hard time figuring out the right way to go. As a result of the high stakes and high uncertainty, we often flounder in this kind of decision-making, sometimes failing to make any decision at all.
My guests have studied those who have to make these kinds of critical choices more often — first responders and members of the military — to figure out how civilians can make better decisions in their everyday lives. Their names are Laurence Alison and Neil Shortland, and they’re the authors of Decision Time: How to Make the Choices Your Life Depends On. Today on the show, Laurence and Neil explain the mistakes people commonly fall into when making big decisions, including getting stuck in a cycle of redundant deliberation, where you forever circle around your options without ever pulling the trigger on one. They then unpack their model for more effective decision-making, including why it should follow a foxtrot pattern, and how to know when it’s time to stop ruminating and finally make a choice. Along the way, we discuss the importance of self-awareness in this process, and what it is you need to know about yourself to make better decisions.
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