Our Whole Childhood with Patrick Teahan Why Are Victims Expected to Do All the Work?
Nov 17, 2025
Join a captivating discussion about the societal pressures survivors face after cutting ties with abusive parents. Hear the story of Thomas, who faced public blame and dismissive advice after a traumatic wedding event. The conversation delves into why abusers often escape accountability while their victims bear the burden of forgiveness. Explore the hidden motivations behind well-meaning yet harmful advice, and learn empowering strategies to reclaim your agency. This insightful dialogue offers validation and a path towards healing.
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Wedding Meltdown That Ended Contact
- Thomas went no contact after his father created a public, rage-filled scene at his wedding.
- The father’s tantrum was part of a lifelong pattern of abuse and left the couple’s milestone tainted.
Minimizing Co-Worker Response
- A co-worker minimized Thomas's experience by saying "all families have stuff" and urging forgiveness.
- That casual minimization exemplifies everyday responses survivors face from well-meaning people.
Aunt Pressuring Reconciliation
- An aunt told Thomas he would have to "let it go" because a grandfather shouldn't be denied a grandchild.
- Family members often pressure survivors to reconcile for appearances or perceived obligations.