In this podcast, the hosts discuss powerful communication tools like switchtracking, bids, and microscripts to improve relationships. They provide examples and practical tips for better communication. The episode also features sponsor promotions and explores the importance of acknowledging and responding to bids for emotional connection.
Understanding bid rejections enhances emotional connection in relationships.
Implementing micro-scripts aids in smoother communication and prevents repetitive arguments.
Deep dives
Building a Solid Foundation for Non-Monogamy with Updated Online Course
A comprehensive update to an online course focusing on non-monogamous relationships was announced, offering additional exercises, journal prompts, and discussion questions. The course aims to address relationship challenges faced by individuals despite their pre-existing knowledge of non-monogamy, providing evidence-based practices to establish a strong relationship foundation.
Understanding Bid Responses and Communication in Relationships
The concept of bids, defined as attempts from one partner to another for attention, affirmation, or affection, was discussed based on the Gottman Institute's research. Positive responses to bids in relationships were found crucial, indicating a higher likelihood of relationship success. Learning to acknowledge bids and respond positively can greatly enhance relationship dynamics.
Navigating Bid Rejections and Mindful Responses
Insights were shared on navigating bid rejections, especially in scenarios like intimate moments or requests for attention. Considering mindfulness and understanding subtextual meanings behind bids play a key role. Responding to bids positively, even when declining the immediate request, fosters emotional connection and strengthens communication in relationships.
Use Micro-scripts for Effective Communication
Utilizing micro-scripts can enhance communication by providing a structured way to navigate interactions. These concise phrases help to address recurring communication breakdowns and prevent repetitive arguments. For example, a couple used 'ready' as a signal to accept requests even when not in the mood, fostering a more positive exchange. Implementing micro-scripts requires self-awareness to identify communication patterns and a willingness to adapt responses for smoother interactions.
Foster Honesty and Gracious Responses
Encouraging honesty in relationships involves responding graciously to uncomfortable truths. The 'Thank you for your honesty' micro-script exemplifies acknowledging vulnerability and setting a supportive tone for further discussions. This script ensures that initial reactions to honesty are constructive and nurturing, creating a safe space for open communication.
This week we have a throwback episode going back six years ago to when we discussed three powerful communication tools to strengthen your relationships: switchtracking, bids, and microscripts. We're going to explore each of these concepts, provide examples of each, and talk about some practical and actionable tips to help you use them to foster better communication in your relationships.
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