The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 163: Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3

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Jan 30, 2024
Explore how safety cues emerge from relationships and influence emotional well-being. The discussion highlights the contagious nature of nervous systems and how personal interactions shape feelings of safety. Learn why understanding the dynamics of connection is vital for parenting, especially with children who struggle to feel secure. Discover practical strategies to enhance connection and foster a sense of safety, even amidst the challenges of parenting. This insightful conversation emphasizes the transformative power of relational dynamics in personal and parental growth.
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Felt Safety Cues

  • People constantly scan for connection, asking, "Are you there?"
  • True connection cues safety, not specific behaviors, as neuroception assesses the other person's nervous system state.
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Neuroception and Connection

  • Neuroception detects if someone is in connection or protection mode.
  • We can't fake connection; neuroception senses nervous system states, especially in power dynamics.
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Nervous System Contagion

  • Nervous systems are contagious, especially impacting those in hierarchical relationships.
  • Adults in protection mode trigger trauma memories in children with complex trauma histories, making co-regulation crucial.
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