

Feeling stuck in grief? Here’s how to find your way forward
In this solo episode of Death on the Daily, I am exploring the complex and deeply personal nature of grief. Grief is a universal experience, yet it can feel overwhelming and like an out of body experience. With each grief unique to the individual and their specific losses.
I share various models of grief, including Lois Tonkin’s model that shows how we grow around our grief rather than it diminishing over time. Validating that the grief will remain, but we and our lives grow so it doesn’t feel as all encompassing as it once did. I also share Margaret Stroebe and Henk Schut’s Dual Process Model of Grief, which highlights the oscillation between feeling grief and engaging in life.
The episode concludes with key takeaways that encourage acceptance, patience, and self-compassion for you, wherever you are in the grieving process.
Key takeaways:
- Grief is a common experience that touches us all.
- All experiences of grief are valid and unique.
- Grief is an internal response to loss, deeply personal to each individual.
- There is no finish line to grief; it is a lifelong journey.
- Grief can be seen as a part of our story, woven into our lives.
- Misconceptions about grief, such as the five stages, can be harmful.
- Dr Lois Tonkin’s model shows how we grow around our grief, creating space for joy and meaning.
- The Dual Process Model of Grief by Margaret Stroebe and Dr Henk Schut helps us understand our oscillation between feeling and doing.
- It's important to allow ourselves to feel grief and also engage in life.
- Your grief story is unique; meet yourself with grace and compassion.
Disclaimer:
This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.
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Chapters:
00:00: Introduction to Grief and Loss
01:24: Understanding the Unique Nature of Grief & Loss
04:46: Models of Grief: Growing Around Our Grief
08:53: The Dual Process Model of Grief
12:36: The Importance of Journaling in Grief
14:32: Key Takeaways and Final Thoughts