Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2506: Understanding Your Emotional Command Systems by Stacy Hubbard of Gottman How to Foster Deeper Connection
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Mar 3, 2025 Dive into the fascinating world of emotional command systems and their impact on relationships. Learn how neurological pathways formed in childhood affect your actions and connections. Discover the seven emotional drives that shape behaviors and how recognizing them can lead to deeper understanding between partners. The discussion encourages couples to balance their emotional needs for greater harmony, ultimately helping them navigate conflicts and foster stronger bonds.
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Emotional Command Systems
- Each person has seven emotional command systems responsible for survival functions.
- These systems, like "Jester" (play) and "Sentry" (defense), influence behaviors and relationships.
Development of Emotional Command Systems
- Upbringing and life experiences shape your dominant emotional command systems.
- For example, a childhood focused on play develops a stronger "Jester" system.
Neglecting Command Systems
- Distress arises when a command system's activation level isn't met.
- Neglecting your "Nest Builder" system's need for connection can lead to distress when moving to a new city.
