Raj Shamani's Figuring Out Why Divorce in India is Increasing? Ft. Vandana Shah on Marriage, Relationships and Divorces | FO 76
Bride Confesses Doubts At Wedding
- At a wedding Vandana was approached by a bride who confessed she didn't want the marriage and loved someone else.
- Shah and the family intervened and the bride agreed to continue, showing how social moments expose hidden doubts.
Emotional Needs Drive Many Divorces
- Women often seek emotional support outside marriage after years of duty and unmet emotional needs.
- Vandana Shah links this to social expectations that treat wives as service providers rather than partners.
Unequal Social Pressure On Women
- Indian society imposes heavy, unequal expectations and labeling on women that pressure marriages.
- Shah calls this 'last in first out' economics where women's needs are the first to be cut.
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In this episode of Figuring Out Podcast we are in Conversation with Advocate Vandana Shah. Vandana is famous and among the top female divorce lawyers based out of Mumbai and Pune . She is also an author, columnist and Social Entrepreneur on whom the BBC has made a documentary ‘Invisible Women of India’ which was broadcast worldwide on International Women’s Day. She is also the author of the bestseller ‘Ex Files’, The Story of my divorce-published by Penguin.
After being thrown out of her marital home with just the clothes on her back and Rs 750 in the bank, Vandana rebuilt her world and founded the first support group in India to help people going through a divorce, 360 Degrees Back to Life. She has since come full circle from being a litigant to being a divorce lawyer and practices at the family court in Mumbai.
Vandana has been awarded best lawyer in India and has been handling various high profile cases. She practices extensively in the family court where she works to defend those who come to seek justice in the court. She does not believe that money is the key that drives a lawyer to perform well but passion for truth is.
In this episode we have discussed everything related to relationships, marriages and divorces.
Check out her website: https://vandanashah.com/
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Timestamps:
00:00 - Introduction
00:48 - Divorce lawyers are the most hated person?
02:38 - Most uncomfortable experience
04:38 - Top 5 reasons of Divorce
09:25 - Domestic Violence in India
10:49 - Why don't women take action against violence?
16:38 - Why marriages don’t work?
19:38 - Why do marriages work?
23:21 - Craziest Divorce Story
29:19 - Men getting abused
30:31 - Law for men in India
37:10 - Why is Prenup not legal in India?
38:13 - Unsaid Dowry in India
44:25 - How can young Indians stop dowry culture?
46:30 - What to do if you love someone and your family don’t agree?
49:05 - Is sexual compatibility a reason for divorce?
52:50 - Your take on movie Thappad
56:33 - Movie Kabir Singh
58:38 - Invisible women of India
59:42 - Divorce procedure in India
1:12:06 - Interim maintenance in Divorce
1:18:50 - How to fasten the Divorce procedure?
1:20:25 - How Bollywood Divorce is different?
1:24:43 - How to spice up your marriage?
1:28:26 - Book on Divorce
1:32:05 - Can men refuse to give money in divorce?
1:36:09 - conclusion
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