The Kink Consultant Ep 37 - The Parallels of My Dating Life and Ali Hazelwood's The Deep End: A Dating Update and a Book Review From the Lens of The Kink Consultant
What happens when a self-proclaimed vanilla romance lover brings a spicy book to The Kink Consultant for a breakdown?
In this episode, I’m joined by Brenda (my Bizdom) and Tish (my podcast editor and first-time guest) as we kick off the official Kink Consultant Book Club with a deep dive into The Deep End by Ali Hazelwood, plus a quick update on my own dating life. I share my take on the book through the lens of a kink consultant and why the story felt a little too close to home. Because while we were reading about a dom who disappears for days and a sub who doesn’t speak up for what she needs, I was ending a real-life relationship that unraveled for the exact same reason: lack of communication. The timing couldn’t have been more aligned.
We explore the difference between fantasy and functional dynamics, how kink is portrayed in books versus how it plays out in real life, and why honest communication will always be hotter than skipping straight to the sex.
If you’ve ever read a spicy scene and thought, “Wait… is this how it actually works?” or you’re curious about how kink and power exchange show up beyond the page, this one’s for you.
Episode Highlights:
04:21 Discussing 'The Deep End' by Ali Hazelwood
11:01 Amanda's Relationship Update
15:09 Navigating Kink and Communication in Relationships
19:03 Cultural Differences in Communication
20:44 The Importance of Communication in Kink
25:32 Sexual vs. Non-Sexual Kinks
30:29 Fantasy vs. Reality in Kink
35:29 Final Thoughts on 'The Deep End'
36:32 Join the Kink Consultant Book Club
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