Women of Impact The Reason You’re Attracted to Toxic People—And How to Break the Pattern for Good | Dr. Laura Berman (Fan Fav)
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Jun 17, 2025 Dr. Laura Berman, a renowned relationship and sex expert, dives into the complexities of attraction and love. She explains how initial butterflies can signal emotional warnings rather than pure excitement. The discussion highlights the impact of unhealed childhood wounds on relationship patterns and offers practical tools to break free from toxic cycles. Listeners learn how to tune into their bodies for wisdom in dating, the difference between lust and love, and the importance of emotional self-sufficiency for fulfilling connections.
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Butterflies Signal Old Wounds
- Butterflies on a first date signal anxiety, not love, reflecting old wounds being triggered.
- Love feels peaceful; lust feels exciting, so butterflies indicate lust, not genuine love.
Attraction Reflects Childhood Wounds
- We unconsciously attract partners embodying our childhood wounds to try to 'get it right' and feel worthy.
- This 'repetition compulsion' happens because old trauma parts remain stuck in us until healed.
Move Slow and Listen to Body
- Move slowly and consciously in dating, paying attention to your body's signals without rushing.
- Ground yourself after dates to understand what your body is really feeling about the person.
