Focus on the Family Strengthening Marriage Podcast When Falling in Love Becomes Intentional
Jan 29, 2026
Cubbie Fink, musician and husband of Rebecca St. James, shares a brief courtship story about intentionally pursuing his now-wife. He tells of the airport pickup that changed everything. They discuss how persistence and following through won her heart and why ongoing intentional pursuit matters in marriage.
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Use Future Imagination To Test Commitment
- Greg Smalley describes picturing himself at 80 to test whether he truly wanted to marry Erin.
- He also asked trusted people for honest feedback to confirm their relationship fit.
Ask Trusted People For Honest Feedback
- Ask trusted friends or mentors to honestly evaluate your relationship and point out red flags.
- Lean into that feedback to help decide if the relationship strengthens you both.
Airport Rescue That Won Her Heart
- Cubbie Fink nearly blew his chance when he overslept but still drove hours to meet Rebecca at the airport.
- His persistence and follow-through impressed her and kept their dating alive.
