Sex and Psychology Podcast

Episode 408: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

Jun 24, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Caitlin V, a well-known sex and relationship coach with millions of YouTube views, tackles the age-old question of whether nice guys truly finish last. She explains how being overly agreeable can diminish attractiveness and emphasizes the importance of blending confidence with kindness. Topics range from the complexities of the 'nice guy' archetype to navigating sexual desires and boundaries. Caitlin also shares insights on enhancing intimacy and communication in relationships, advocating for authenticity in expressing needs.
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INSIGHT

Beyond Nice Guy vs Bad Boy

  • The "nice guy" versus "bad boy" is a false binary; attraction involves a mix of traits from both.
  • Authentic integration of "good guy" qualities and confident "bad boy" traits creates genuine appeal.
INSIGHT

Performative Niceness Hurts Attraction

  • Some "nice guys" are overly agreeable to avoid discomfort, masking insecurity.
  • This performative niceness reduces authenticity and undermines genuine connection.
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People-Pleasing Is Manipulation

  • Excessive people-pleasing is actually a form of manipulation expecting unspoken returns.
  • This lack of authenticity triggers aversion and undermines healthy relationships.
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